Emotional Intelligence (EQ): How to Test, Improve & Benefit

Emotional Intelligence (EI) or Emotional Quotient (EQ) began as dark horse. However, it is fast emerging as a prime factor that can rule your entire life- personal, professional, social and financial.

In fact, EQ testing is expected to become an essential tool in testing if you possess proper mental skills for a job.

What is Emotional Intelligence or EQ?

Emotional Intelligence

Simply put, Emotional Quotient is: “The potential to feel, use, communicate, recognize, remember, describe, identify, learn from, manage, understand and explain emotions.”

You can find extensive research about EQ on website the US government’s National Library of Medicine. Further, Psychology Today website describes EQ in a slightly different way: “Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify and manage your own emotions and the emotions of others”.

It is generally said to include three skills: emotional awareness; the ability to harness emotions and apply them to tasks like thinking and problem solving; and the ability to manage emotions, which includes regulating your own emotions and cheering up or calming down other people.”

Are you emotionally intelligent?

Before jumping to conclusions about our own abilities, we need to understand three vital facts.

  • Emotional Quotient (EQ), in most people, is inborn trait.
  • You can acquire some degree of EQ skills if you are willing to exert extra efforts.
  • Pretending you have EQ can land you in serious emotional problems that may require psychiatric help later.

Practical uses of Emotional Intelligence

Eminent psychologist Daniel Goleman is one of the main proponents of Emotional Intelligence and a pioneer of sorts in this fairly new stream of psychology. He says, Emotional Intelligence serves five main purposes.

These are self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy and social skills. Proper blend of these emotional skills are vital for all areas of life.

Especially, jobs where you need to deal with other people. Therefore, let us examine these five qualities of people with high Emotional Intelligence.

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1. Self Awareness: The main trait of EQ

It means having a complete understanding of your present moment. Additionally, such understanding should have proper, down-to-earth realistic basis.

Further, it should be away from own fantasies or grandiose views about yourself. Self awareness also means, you know every single emotion going on in your mind at any particular moment.

However, most of us deceive ourselves by falsely believing we have control over our emotions. Beware, because this can land you in serious emotional trouble when facing adverse situations.

People with high EQ know how to tackle jealousy and anger. Moreover, they think well before doing something. These people are thoughtful of others. Despite, they are able to say no.

They have a high degree of personal integrity and are not disturbed by any change such as new job or home.

2. Self regulation: The vital art of control

You can consider this the most important trait of Emotional Quotient.

Simply put, self regulation means having a complete control over the emotions you feel at any given time, place and situation. However, this does not in any way mean you should pretend to have control over your emotions.

In fact, it simply means you should be able to identify every positive and negative emotion and assess why you feel that way. Furthermore, it means you should know how to control them.

For example, you can hide intense anger or show it. However, Emotional Intelligence means, putting your anger to proper and beneficial use.

3. Motivation: A key leadership skill

“People often say motivation does not last. Neither does bathing. That is why we recommend it daily.”- Zig Ziglar, American author and motivational speaker.

Studies about leadership skills reveal that people with good EQ are usually self-motivated. Meaning, they do not require motivation from external sources and factors. Usually, they will find some very good reason that motivates them to do their work.

Further, good leaders also know how to motivate others in a team or family. They are aware of their own emotions as well as those of others around them.

Daniel Goleman has written an excellent paper titled ‘What Makes a Leader’ for Harvard Business Review, providing great insights into EQ.

4. Empathy: Not to be mistaken for kindness

All of us are kind with people lesser fortunate than us. However, empathy assumes a different meaning for Emotional Quotient or EQ.

Simply put, it means understanding how a particular person or a group of people are feeling at the moment. Further, it means taking into consideration their respective circumstances.

You are correctly able to judge the needs and wants as well as views of one or more persons, even if the other does not show them openly.

Empathetic people have excellent skills at managing relationships at home, society and work. Moreover, they do not form an opinion about a person immediately. Instead, they wait and understand feelings of others.

5. Social Skills: To ensure your survival

Everyone needs social skills for basic survival. In any case, humans are social animals and we cannot live alone, outside a society. You will surely have seen some people find it easier to get along with others.

Presumably, these people have excellent Emotional Intelligence. They use these social skills to form, develop and maintain relationships.

In addition, they focus on overall benefit rather than being selfish. You will definitely find such people putting common good first, without much personal consideration.

Their social skill ensures success wherever they are- family, society and work.

Learning more about Emotional Quotient

Currently, Emotional Quotient / Intelligence is a very hot topic. You will find countless resources to learn about EQ and its different uses.

These include books written by various prominent researchers in the field. Further, you can also take a variety of videos on YouTube to know how you rank for your Emotional Intelligence.

Easy reading material, online tests, lectures and resources for developing your EQ are available free online.

Testing your Emotional Intelligence

Before rushing to download information or buying books on EQ, let us know where we stand. A wide range of free and paid online tests for Emotional Intelligence are available.

However, do not consider these as final results. Some of these free online tests are designed for specific nationalities, races or cultures. Therefore, finding the right free online test for yourself can be difficult.

Moreover, online tests ask only a few questions to gauge your EQ. Very often, these are inadequate to give you correct indication of your EQ Test.

However, this is not a reason to be discouraged. You will definitely find EQ testing centres near your residence. Though they will charge a nominal fee, their results are likely more precise.

Merely because the test questions will be made keeping in mind your nationality, culture and other vital factors. Approaching a new employer with your EQ results can definitely boost your job prospects in some situations.

High Intelligence v/s Emotional Intelligence

A few decades before, Intelligence Quotient- commonly called IQ- was developed. Nowadays too, IQ tests are given to students and graduates. The common perception is that people with high IQ fare better at studies and work.

However, extensive research shows this to be untrue. A large number of people with great IQ levels live miserable personal and social life. The reason is simple- these people do not possess good Emotional Intelligence.

Essentially, they cannot achieve their full potential in life as friend, parent, employee and member of society. Emotional Quotient (EQ) testing helps solve this handicap of IQ tests.

Jobs that require high Emotional Intelligence

Employers welcome job seekers who exhibit high levels of Emotional Intelligence. Therefore, as significance of EI rises, some jobs are especially for those who have great Emotional Intelligence.

  • Armed Forces
  • Surgeons and doctors
  • Nurses and caregivers
  • Emergency Medical Services staff and paramedics
  • Police
  • Front-line journalists for print, digital and TV media
  • Advertising experts
  • Community leaders
  • Lawyers
  • Military engineers
  • Charity and relief workers
  • Diplomats
  • Teachers
  • Customer Service staff
  • Fashion designers and other fine arts jobs

Developing your own EQ

As we mention before, developing your personal Emotional Intelligence can be quite a task. Therefore, taking an EQ test before embarking on any such venture is a wise move.

Once you know areas where you lag in Emotional Intelligence, you may undergo various online or classroom courses. Again, a lot of books by eminent psychologists and experts are available and at libraries.

However, it is vital to remember that mere reading of EQ books and material will not suffice. You also need to practice these vital skills that you learn in your daily life. Eventually, they will become part of your lifestyle.

Benefits of having great EQ

You may not notice, but a lot of employers study non-verbal language of jobseekers nowadays. You stand very high chances of netting your dream job in any sector should you possess excellent Emotional Quotient.

Developing your EQ will also ensure success in your chosen profession. Furthermore, people with great EQ lead happier lifestyles. This in turn translates to better performance at workplace.

Consequently, your higher performance gets you lucrative income.

The best time to start on your journey to develop or improve EQ is while studying. Research shows that younger people find it easier to develop their Emotional Intelligence.

Mainly, because they are open to new ideas and willing to acquire more skills. You can approach your school or college counsellor to seek guidance on developing EQ.

Remember, you can develop excellent EQ skills regardless of gender, culture, language and financial situation. Observing people who exhibit very high traits of EQ is also on way to learn.

23 Comments

  1. imani on August 23, 2017 at 3:37 pm

    I love the whole topic….

  2. Sanket on August 21, 2017 at 12:58 am

    Do you have practical teaching…..
    I can learning with practical…
    Fast answer me…
    Tnx…

  3. Henry on August 16, 2017 at 5:53 pm

    Am Ssenyonga am asking how one with a low EQ can not only improve but be one with a high EQ.
    Secondly does it depend on the age?

  4. Moses Sunday on August 13, 2017 at 11:25 pm

    Quite wonderful, thanks for your explixits explanations as these really help me to improved

  5. Satya prakash sahoo on August 13, 2017 at 7:19 pm

    By judging myself on my own i can tell that i have zero or even negative eq pls hlp me increase it pls send best online tests(nationality-indian)sites for me and pls tell me about some counselling courses so that i can increase my eq

  6. S.S.K.Sudhakar on August 12, 2017 at 1:18 pm

    Above all my friends are said very good. There is no need to explain my view separately.

  7. Jayamurali on August 12, 2017 at 11:45 am

    Found the material really good. What ought I do to improve my E I?

  8. Mary on August 12, 2017 at 1:37 am

    A good read. EQ seems to be gaining more importance than IQ. It may be because of the realization that your success in life depends more on your emotional intelligence which makes you capable to understand and appreciate the people around you and the situations that you are in, and make necessary adjustments. Hope the assessment of EQ and the guidance to improve it starts at an early stage in schools.

  9. R Grover on August 11, 2017 at 9:24 pm

    article is a good read no doubt but income is required to live so look for many options to do at the same time and try for real life interaction as far as possible

  10. DAVID ROUT on August 11, 2017 at 3:13 pm

    This is a wonderful Topic. It is highly important for an Individual to be aware of his EQ. However, I suggest a simple EQ Test material in Indian Context will be of great help in addition to this.

    • subhrajyoti on August 14, 2017 at 12:49 am

      I completely agree with you…

      • ss on August 14, 2017 at 12:53 am

        Actually i want to say that the article is very helpfull indeed,but at the end a standard EQ test in indian context(suggested or selected by you) would have been much more benifitial for readers.
        Regards

  11. Stanly Joseph on August 11, 2017 at 3:07 pm

    Its very hard to find the job, is there any simple guidance?

    • R Grover on August 11, 2017 at 9:12 pm

      Jobs are extremely rare to find salaried jobs that is even if you posses the skill sets required – best i have discovered from own experiences of life is you are a customer from your birth – now become a loyal one just fulfil your own/ fmly needs as much as you can – very easily you can get back from 5- 20% plan goes stage by stage to your bank account and even beyond that – job is become a customer then a loyal one- i am already doing it meet me in person or ask someone you can trust to do the same in person . I do not need your money- just become a customer/ then loyal one- proof of having a bank ac reqd, KYC reqd that is all -i am in Noida grover 9873150953 – over 200 things many of daily needs too – it can be done anywhere in India – my funda is earn as much as one can without any hanky panky etc – yes give the co name all are strangers ?

  12. Bianka on August 11, 2017 at 2:55 pm

    A very good read!

  13. DEMEYA HENRY on August 11, 2017 at 2:07 pm

    How can i easily control myself in hard and tough times without hurting the feelings of other people around me

  14. vincent on August 10, 2017 at 8:15 pm

    nice materials here

  15. meera on August 10, 2017 at 6:05 pm

    very useful article. Thank you and keep posting

  16. subbu on August 10, 2017 at 4:10 pm

    I m getting confused in this job…even I am not getting hint to find a job in a simple way

  17. Upali on August 10, 2017 at 3:51 pm

    I m getting confused in this job…even I am not getting hint to find a job in a simple way and to earn money easily.

  18. Shabana Tk on August 10, 2017 at 2:58 pm

    It was nice to read about Emotional Intelligence. I got a fair idea about the importance of having good ei in our day to day life.

  19. Gautam Rao on August 10, 2017 at 2:16 pm

    This artical are too good for a man nad women also because while human are upset they can read it and they will motivate.

  20. Paul Saha on August 10, 2017 at 1:52 pm

    Before you get the EQ, you should go for relaxation practice, if you are relaxed properly, chances are you can perform with good EQ, o don’t overburden yourself think you lac EQ, rather go for easy to learn relaxation practice and other will follow correctly because without being properly relaxed none human can have healthy EQ

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